Loving your IBDMay 06, 2021
Loving your inflammatory bowel disease
Because it here.
Because there is no cure yet.
Because hating your IBD and your body hasn’t helped you.
Because you are not broken or deformed or diseased.
Because your IBD has grown your strength and resilience and compassion.
Because maybe IBD is your superpower.
Just today I had a discussion with a client of mine, who after many years of struggling with active Crohn’s disease was finally in remission. She thought she would feel amazing, but instead she was disappointed.
She did not feel that sense of freedom that she had imagined.
She spent her time worrying that her Crohn’s disease would flare again. And worse- she was sure she was going to “screw something up” and that the flare would be all her fault. She feared that she would eat the wrong thing or exert herself too much or that all the stress in her life would tip her back into a flare.
She was afraid and fear paralyzed her.
Fear and blame stopped her from doing the things that she knew helped to keep her well. She would forget to take her medication regularly- the very thought of her medication actually started to make her feel more anxious. She stopped eating a diet that made her feel good, because she was so sure she was going to mess it up that she might as well not even try.
Fear and blame are emotions that we sometimes think will help us achieve our health goals. We talk about “whipping ourselves into shape.” We beat ourselves up emotionally when we do human things like forget to take our medications because we think it will drive us to do better in the future. If we are scared enough that something terrible will happen, we think we will be driven to take control of our health.
But so many times, like my client above, fear and blame actually drive us to the opposite result. And even when they do help motivate us to move forward with our health priorities in the short run, fear is not a sustainable emotion. Our minds get tired of the discomfort associated with feeling afraid all the time and we lose momentum.
What if instead of using fear and blame, we used the emotion of LOVE to drive us to our healthcare goals?
Love doesn’t tire, it always feels good. What if we loved ourselves and our body so deeply that we did everything in our power to make healing inevitable? Even when the road was bumpy, the path was unclear or hurdle after hurdle stood in our way. When we love every part of ourselves, we are willing to commit to the work of figuring it all out.
Loving yourself, your body, your IBD to health is possible.
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